Building People Up With Words

Thank you for joining us at Leadership Advance this past weekend. It means so much to Liz and I that you took time out of your busy lives to invest in growing together. As leaders, when we grow and get better, everything around us grows and improves. Thank you for partnering with us so that we can better serve our church and city.


Ephesians 4:11-12

11 “So Christ himself gave the apostles, the prophets, the evangelists, the pastors and teachers, 12 to equip his people for works of service, so that the body of Christ may be built up”

Leadership in The Kingdom of God is not about status, it’s about service. The plain and simple truth is that church builders have to be servant leaders. No one is here to serve us; we make it our mission to lead by serving others. Jesus is the great example of living a life of intentional sacrifice and service so that others could reach their potential. The mindset of a servant leader is to look at people and ask, “How can I help them get better?”. This is in great contrast to the world’s viewpoint, which is, “What can I get from them?”

One of the simplest ways to build people is to use your words to affirm and encourage them.

Ephesians 4:29

“Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.”

Let’s make a commitment to use our words to build people. Anyone can highlight something that is wrong, but a servant leader looks first to affirm what is right while encouraging improvement  where growth is needed.

I try to live by a simple mantra I learned from another church leader:

  • If you see something good, say something good.

Don’t assume that they are being encouraged for what they are currently contributing. Don’t let a blessing stay in your mind or your mouth; say it out loud.

  • If you think of something good, do good.

    Send a text of encouragement, drop a note in the mail, affirm them on social media, maybe even bless them with a small gift. Do for one what you wish you could do for all.

My challenge for you as part of our Leadership Advance Community is to take some time this week and answer these few questions yourself:

Is there someone who serves with me whom I have unintentionally taken for granted?

Who can I build up with my words today?

How can I add more value to the people around me?

Don't just make this a one-time exercise today; use it to begin to build a culture of encouragement. As you intentionally build people with your words, you will begin to see the people around you grow to new levels. Words of life are rare in this day and age. If you water the people around you well, you will see the garden of gratitude grow into something beautiful.

- Kyle Turner